Men Will Be Men.!!
Surprise Surprise.! Well, as today is International Men’s Day so I thought why not write and share something about “Our Dear Men”. Why should only women get celebrated on March 8th every year with great pomp and show. We always talk about equality, Right.!
So, in order to be equal and demand equality let’s start with the basics and not bash or generalize men with things which are going on and on just like an “Old wives’ tale”. We often hear teenage girls talking malicious about heartbreaks and how they got dumped by boys, but every coin has 2 sides and there are situations where poor boys are dumped too for no good reason, and as humans both the genders suffer bad emotional route for weeks or months or even years. Is a boy not allowed to feel dejected and jilted? Can we normalize heartbreak and pain for them as well?
How many times I’ve seen guys are played over by girls in a romantic relationship. Don’t they get hurt?
A heartbreak is a heartbreak, it doesn’t differentiate between a man and woman. I have heard stories where a girl uses their “Woman Card” to get close to a boy and gets all kind of entertainment, attention and favors they want. Yes, we always talk how woman are used by men but what about these men who get played by such ladies? A very new millennial word that I learnt few years ago was “Ghosting” and we all must have heard people ghosting each other to avoid complex conversations or get rid of them but again it is a two-way street and YES, MEN ARE GHOSTED AS WELL.!
Moving on, when we talk about our “Young Adults”. All of us are crazy, and sometime or the other we make bad decisions and regret later. But as a boy you are bullied by other boys in case you made a mistake. You are made fun of if you chose to live differently and have unconventional choices. I remember a guy from my academic time who was very polite, gentle and loved reading books. He was very good with his subjects and always scored the best in the class. He preferred playing ludo over cricket and instead to riding bikes like other rowdy boys, he took cabs or buses to commute. That poor soul was always made fun of and bullied by other students because they thought he wasn’t enough cool to hang out with them so eventually he made a lot of friends in girls, but little did he know that even the girls are not that pure souls and started to spread rumors about him being overly friendly to them.
When it comes to spreading rumors and gossip, we all have a preset mind saying that this is a “Woman’s Arena” when it’s both who does gossip and equally enjoy. Again, I am not generalizing any gender here but who doesn’t talk about other people and things to their friends and close ones.
Then comes “Power Play”. Have you ever been to corporate offices where the competition to beat each other is fierce? Is that gender biased? No, both men and woman face it.
Yes, there was a time when it was difficult for a woman to make their mark at workplace, but things are changing and hopefully we will see a better and equal world someday.
But what exactly is “Power Play”? Well, I’m sure some of you might be the victim of this where a woman is extra dominating and rude to her staff if they are sitting on a powerful position. We have often heard men sidelining and dominating woman over the period but what about those men who are victims by the other gender? Can we hear them speaking up on this? No.
Men and Marriage:
Another interesting thing to note about men is marriage. Again, there are 2 sides to the coin, the ugly one where woman are the victims and the other ugly one where men are the victims. Since this write up is about men, so I’ll elaborate the second one, but trust me both the ugly sides are horrendous.
If a man is a helping husband, doing household chores along with his regular job then he is “Joru ka Ghulam”. If those poor guys keep his wife and children above all then he is not having a life of his own. If he gives space to their spouse, then they don’t care or pay attention to them and on top of that the constant pressure of taking care of family and paying all the bills even though both are earning. Is this fair?
Have you seen old age homes and the pain of separation that they suffer? Where do you think this comes from? I have seen so many houses where a woman overpowers, and a son is separated from his parents. Is that right?
A man is always burdened with responsibility of earning more, of being the strongest and cannot feel sad or cry. Why? Aren’t they human too? Why can’t they feel sad and heartbroken like woman? Why can’t they cry when things are overwhelming? Why can’t they share the load/responsibilities with their partner of being the strong pillar of the house?
I can go on and on with this topic as I have more male friends than females. Yes, I also had bad experiences with men but looking at the other side, were all the women nice? A BIG NOOOOOOO.!
So instead of bashing men and calling them “Names”, try to see them as humans first because finding a good human is much better than an evil woman.
Here’s to all these kind humans… Cheers to you.! Keep up the good spirit.
