Diary Of A Workaholic Woman.!
So, I thought why not share a page from my own personal diary or so to speak my very own experiences of days being called as a “Workaholic Woman”.
Trust me, I hear this every now and not in a positive way. But isn’t it better to be workaholic than alcoholic? :-D
“Queens don't do drama, We do Business.!”
Also, what does this exactly mean? And who decided to tag people to it without understanding their minds and dreams? I am sure every woman has their own story and their passion, then what and why do they do should not be a question mark.
If we cannot comprehend other people’s thought then that does not mean they are wrong, it’s just that they have a different set of brains and thought process.
There is another tag given to working woman if they love their jobs, which makes me furious. I am sure a lot of you woman/girls must have heard it too. “Oh! She is too ambitious”. SO? What’s wrong in that? And why that tone?
Yes, I won’t deny that managing household chores with work is not easy. I do struggle with it several times.
If you have a supporting family/husband, then your life is sorted but if they are not then you are doomed.!
This is where our country needs to be progressive. Let woman also fly and chase their dream and not just worry about what to “cook for lunch/dinner” or “taking care of Children” or “doing laundry” etc etc.
Why is this still a “Woman’s Duty”??
Let us also DREAM, BELIEVE & ACHIEVE what we love, and it could be our professional lives.
I am a woman who loves my job and I work hard every single day because it gives me happiness and motivation to stay happy. And not to forget, Money to fulfil my dreams. I am often perceived as someone who is ignorant to her “Woman’s duty” and it used to bother me in the beginning but when I see my parents’ eyes shining with pride and the feeling of being self-sufficient then I stopped caring about what anyone’s says. Coz, you know what, “Nobody pays my bills” and yes, I have a handful of people who love me for what I am. So, the rest is just noise.!!!!
Sometimes it’s weird that within corporate offices women are each others enemy and love to gossip about someone who might be a little different from them.
To give some examples:
“You are working till late because you don’t have a child.” — Hello… Can I take care of my family planning, instead of you judging me for being passionate about my work?
“She doesn’t take care of her child and is always busy with herself.” — Have you been to her house? Did their children say anything? No, then why assumptions? Maybe they have everything sorted and balanced.
“Your husband doesn’t mind that you travel so often for work.” — Dude, I’m working hard every day to get the life I want, I enjoy travelling and meeting people around the globe while working. Why would my husband mind that?
And if anyone’s husband minds this then I’m sorry to say but they are not your Cheerleader.!
“You don’t look married; May be because you always wear trousers and skirts and not saree.” — Is saree or salwar kameez a uniform that married woman wear? Does the way I dress really impacts my work, knowledge and skillsets?
“Professional life is important, but family life is also important.” — Dude, my family is extremely proud and happy of my passion and success, and they are my priority so don’t judge me if I love my job.
And here comes my favorite one (Pun intended)
“You would be so tired by the end of the day that you wouldn’t have time to cook or take care of your house.” — Bitch Please.! Visit my house someday (Although, I won’t prefer inviting you to my place), it’s always organized and neat. Yes, I hate cooking, but I prefer cooking myself whenever I want to eat something special. Cleaning and organizing my house are another passion of mine.
And Blah Blah Blah Blah.!!
Yes, sometimes I am extremely tired and don’t feel like doing anything. I’m not a super woman who can take care of all, but I know how to prioritize and that’s a sign of a person with good management skills.
There are days when I don’t even want to leave my bed in the morning because my body is not supporting me. Although, multitasking has become a part of my life but sometimes it can be overwhelming. However, I push myself thinking that “If not me, Then Who?”
“The only thing I am committed to right now is bettering myself.!’
Yes, we have house helps and sometimes family to support but you cannot push everything onto them. They are your supporters and not helpers.!
I was raised in a family where my parents always made sure that we are capable enough to take care of everything ourselves without depending on anyone. So yes, my mindset has been like that always to take care of me and my people. I appreciate and value people loving me but when it comes to take care of myself and my wellbeing I always look up to only one person and that's “ME”.
There are bumps in the journey and yes, I have fallen and broken several times. I am sure this will happen again and again, but another big learning from my life and experience is-
“Don’t wait for a helping hand when you fall, believe in you and make yourself strong enough to get up and fight back.” — Surbhi Narain Srivastava
