A Programmed Woman
Woman — The most mysterious and beautiful creature created by god!
I have often heard people saying especially men, that understanding a woman is the most difficult thing in this world. My question to all these men is, forget about understanding a woman and their thoughts Do you even try to understand what all she is going through on daily basis?
Women are fragile like a flower but trust me they are hard as a rock too, you wouldn’t know how many times a day she has lost faith, hurt by someone, deceived and broken into pieces but she knows how to stand up again and fix the problem.
“A woman is a full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform.”
She might pretend she has forgotten and pretends to be happy, keeps loving, laughing, smiling outside, facing the world every single day but somedays she just wants to scream out loud, but she couldn’t because no one understands when the strong ones get tired.
It’s easy to say that we as a woman are looking for a better world where we are treated as equal to Men but the journey to that impossible world is not so easy. A woman is not even given equal opportunity to decide what they want from their life; their life is governed by their families or the societal norms and that’s how they are “Programmed”
When a girl child is born, there are so many apprehensions about her. As she grows up into a toddler, she is given dolls to play. Why? Because that’s how a female is viewed in this world. Moving on, when she is busy with her studies and sports their aspirations and dreams aren’t taken seriously. Why? Because the goal of her life is supposed to be someone’s wife and have children who will be known by their father’s name. My question to all is, who decided all this for a woman? Why is she being programmed like this? Why is she asked to take care of all the homely responsibilities along with her dreams and ambitions?
This is just a small example of what a woman goes through and trust me it’s not just words, these are all coming through experiences of different woman I know.
While growing up, a girl dreams of so many things but do they achieve it? Does this society encourage them to follow their heart and do what they want? I don’t think so.
A girl is programmed from the very beginning of their life on how they should live and what all duties are they bound to do, A girl is programmed to get married by the age of 26–27 because that what will make her “SETTLED” in her life, no matter how much they are educated or what they are willing to achieve. After marriage a woman is expected to take care of their husband, in-laws and produce a child before the age of 30, Why? Because the biological clock is ticking, and that poor creature is hounded by every person that if they don’t do it in time, Reason: She can have reproductive challenges in future.
Is that’s how a woman life should be? Is it fair that the society decides what should she do with her life rather than she deciding that for herself?
As per a survey, nearly 40% of the woman are leading a life that was chosen by someone else for them. 30% of the women in this country are still struggling to study and follow their dreams but unfortunately these are crushed by either the family or the society pressure. These girls could be a great doctors, teachers, engineers, corporate employee, defense officer but no, they were asked to get married, get “SETTLED” to look after their family and have children.
When a woman is ambitious then they are perceived to be heartless and not caring about their family because she works hard every single day in the office, but no one notices that she goes back and do the laundry as well. If she is working for extra hours, then people think what kind of work is this which doesn’t give her time to be with her family? Managing a house and work together isn’t that easy but people think that it’s a part of her life, and gradually she herself starts believing in the same.
Even when, she is having bad menstrual cramps or going through 9 months of pregnancy she never sits back, A woman is extremely strong to carry out her responsibilities along with these additional situations.
I am not against marriage, family or children but the way this is pushed on to a woman is sad and disgusting.
· It’s her choice to decide, at what age she wants to get married.
· It’s her choice if she wants to get marriage.
· It’s her choice she wants to have kids.
· It’s her choice if she wants to focus on herself and her wellbeing.
· It’s her choice if she wants to live alone and support her family and her parents in their old age.
· It’s her choice if she wants to study and become something.
· It’s her choice if she wants to be a homemaker.
I can’t change how people think and raise their daughters, but I can only try to voice out what most of the woman think and go through in a hope that someday this taboo will break and “A Programmed Woman” will have the independence to live the way she wants.
“Keep Shining beautiful one, the world needs your light!”
